For those of you who don’t know my husband, he’s an incredibly kind, sweet man. He’s also one of the most reserved men you’ll ever meet. For him to write this letter to this young woman, it took him far outside his comfort zone, but he felt it was crucial she know where we were coming from and that regardless of her decision, she had our support. Without further ado- I give you A’s letter to Sam*.
Ever since we became friends, and long before we were ever married, I’ve known that the lovely woman who is now my wife longed to be a mother with every ounce of her heart. I share that same desire, but to be a caring father.
I am the type of person who would not tell you something unless I believed it to be true with every fiber of my being. I can promise you that above all else, if you choose to bless our family with this child, a day would never go by that he or she wouldn’t know that they are deeply and truly loved. This child will be the center of our attention, and he or she will be encouraged to grow educationally and spiritually at her chosen pace.
We consider each other very fun to be around. Both of us are humorous, fun loving people who are always looking for ways to make each other laugh. We just can’t get enough of each other, and if the love we have for each other is any indication how much this new baby in our lives will be cared for, that baby will be enveloped with limitless love.
As a couple, we are unique in the way we love life together. We are each other’s best friend, and we have been surrounded by so many diverse couples who make up our close-knit group of friends.
We both have very strong, yet open and loving families. Both of our sets of parents have been in love and married for almost 30 years! We count ourselves very lucky to have such loving and deeply committed parents. The baby will also be the first grandchild on both sides! J and I have found our best friend and true soul mate in one another, and I have no doubt that ours is a lasting, eternal love.
We can also promise you that should questions ever come up from the child, we will re-enforce the knowledge that their birth mother loved them enough to choose adoption and wanted to give the best life possible with the freedom to enjoy every opportunity they aspire towards.
We are beyond ready to add a third member to our family. We thank God for giving us one another. We are a couple that takes pride in having fun, sacrificing for the other, and providing an environment that includes encouraging feedback and giving. We promise to give the new baby a strong foundation of safety, trust, security, love and laughter no matter what the world throws at us for the rest of our lives.
While we’d love nothing more than to be parents this little girl, we know the decision is ultimately in your hands. We want you to know that we fully support any decision you choose. We wish you all the best and pray for peace in your heart.
With All Our Love and Support,